PREPARING THE BODY FOR LOVE-MAKING
The tiny organ already mentioned, the clitoris, is the most exciting feature of this area. It is the female equivalent of the male penis. It comes, in miniature, complete with an ultra-sensitive head (or glans) and a shaft that is composed of erectile tissue. Under sexual stimulation, it becomes filled with blood, enlarges and stiffens. Although the head can be seen, the shaft may usually only be felt as it recedes into the tissue behind. The prepuce partially covers the head, and offers some sort of protectionjust as the foreskin of a penis protects its head from undue friction and irritation when not in use.
The head of the clitoris is the most sensitive and erotic part of the female. Here, millions of ultra-sensitive nerve endings are located Stimulation by touch or pressure can rapidly incite sexual arousal. The more the organ engorges with blood, the bigger it becomes, and the more erotic the stimulation.
Ideally, sexual arousal is more than a mechanical undertaking. Psychological overtones play a vitally important part. All senses are affected in creating the ideal surroundings. Smell, touch, sound, warmth, all integrate with psychological overtones. A competent and effective spouse will soon come to understand the power of all senses when preparing a partner for intercourse. 'Pre-sex love play' is the name of the game, and the sooner couples realize the meaning of this, and take full advantage of it, the more complete and meaningful will be their sex life.
For full enjoyment, male penile erection and female clitorial engorgement are vital to sexual success. Never forget it.
The clitoris is extremely sensitive to tactile stimulation, whatever its origin. For this reason, manual stimulation by the male will quickly arouse all but the most indolent partner. Light touch by moistened fingers (saliva is best, for it is slippery and very similar to normal body secretions in this area) will rapidly yield a satisfying sensuous reaction.
Similarly, those who enjoy commencing their love play with oral sex can gain a similar response with the application of the tongue to the clitoris. Up and down or circular motions are equally effective. This can often be enhanced with a sucking motion, centred on the clitoris. In many women the organ is extremely small and may be difficult to locate. Or it may appear as a small roughening where the small vaginal lips meet. Following the small lips upwards and frontwards will inevitably bring you to the vital spot.
During intercourse, there is no direct contact of the penile shaft and the clitoris. Some women ask why. 'You simply couldn't stand it', the gynaecologists reply. 'You'd shoot through the ceiling with ecstasy. Nature has been sensible.'
Actually, clitorial stimulation continues unabated during intercourse. With each thrust, a squeezing sensation reaches the clitoris and this perpetuates the stimulation, invariably to the point of orgasm.
Some women have a prominent prepuce, and this may nearly cover the clitoris. If the complaint is that they do not receive much obvious stimulation, even with manual manipulation, a gynaecologist may carry out the equivalent of a male circumcision. The fold of prepuce covering the clitoris is gently manoeuvred back, so exposing the head of the clitoris and making it more obviously available for external stimulation. However, from my experience, this is more talked about in women's glossy magazines than is actually carried out in hospital theatres.
Embedded in the tissues at the lower sides of the vaginal vestibule are Bartholin's glands, one left and one right. Each is about the size of a pea, and normally cannot be felt unless diseased. A canal about 2 cm long connects each gland to the lower part of the vaginal vestibule. Under sexual excitation, copious amounts of a thick, very slippery fluid are produced by these glands, and this pours forth as an aid to intercourse and easy penetration.
It is quite well established that this is the final indication mat the female partner is ready for intercourse. Unless there is plenty of lubricating fluid present, difficulties can easily arise. Penetration may be difficult, thrusting may produce irritation and chafing (and an unhappy partner), and risk of infections being forced into the urethral meatus may be greater. Knowledgeable partners will always be aware of this valuable sign before attempting penetration.
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